In times like these where everyone is scared of being infected by the virus let’s try to reduce the panic and anxiety in our minds by being mindful and aware.
To help in developing the positivity here is a small meditation that we all can practise any time of the day.
1. Wear comfortable clothing, sit on a chair or lie down on the bed. 2. Rest your hands on your hips or rest them on your sides if you are lying down. 3. Close your eyes and relax your facial muscles. 3. In your mind try to say the following things
My body is healthy and fit.
I extend my positive energy to everyone around me.
I nourish my body with healing foods.
My body gets all the vitamins and nutrients it needs.
I love eating healthy foods.
Energy flows to and through me freely.
I radiate positive energy and vitality.
I want everyone to be healed.
I want to see everyone around me happy.
You can do this meditation twice or thrice a day. I hope it helps everyone.
Most of the times our mind wanders in places where we have been before and other times it goes into the places where we want to be. In short our mind is either in the past or in the future. Now this sounds absurd. If my body is here then why isn’t my mind here?
The answer to this is not easy. Our past experiences and situations keep replaying in our head throughout the day. We keep thinking about the pleasant and stressful situations most of the times. Often trying to reenact the past. Frankly speaking there is no outcome of it. Its a complete waste of time and energy. The time which could have been utilised to do something productive is spent in thinking about the last dinner or about a recent argument you had with someone close to you.
The past can be troublesome most of the times as it brings back depressive memories and sad events. And the mind keeps reinventing the scenarios with the best and favourable outcomes just to please the mind.
The impact of this is directly on the present. It affects our day to day activities. It diverts the mind from focusing on the work on hand. Mechanically we carry on with the work but without mindfulness. Subconsciously we end up doing the activities like studying, reading a book, writing an email, etc. but we are not doing it with full involvement. Maybe our mind tries to open some doors of the past. Maybe we think about the weekend that’s going to come.
The experiences that affect the present the most are the bitter ones. As Gautama Buddha said “Attachment to situations, people and things is the main causative agent for any kind of suffering.” unless we let go off these attachments our mind will always be stuck in the past and will try to seek pleasure by satisfying those cravings.
1. Make a schedule Take two or three subjects per day and make a weekly plan so that all the chapters are covered from the entire syllabus. Approximately 5-8 hrs of self study should be aimed at as the final lap matters the most.
2. Take breaks After a study of 2 hrs it is good to take a short break for coffee or having a chat with your mom. It freshens up the stagnated mind and opens up the clogs for the next study session. Remember, all work and no play makes jack a dull boy.
3. Write write write Keep writing difficult answers of Science, Social sciences and Hindi. Maths should be practised keeping in mind 20-30 questions in one hour. Practise diagrams, formulae and chemical reactions.
4. Stick charts Make charts and diagrams and stick them on to your pin board or near your study area. Visual memory will develop when you keep revisiting the diagrams and charts.
5. Meditate Atleast 10 mins in the morning should be spent in meditation. Just focus on your breath, it will calm your mind and remove the unnecessary chaos from the mind.
6. Solve previous year papers It is recommended that students solve previous years papers, practise papers or sample papers. These are easily available on the internet or purchase a book which has sample papers like Oswal, Arihant, etc.
Hope these pointers are helpful. Follow them with deligence and success will be yours.
Hardly any days are left for the final exams of all grades leaving the students in stress and confusion. The following things will definitely help you all in managing the time and studying effectively.
Developing focus and keeping it intact during all times in school or college is a challenge. We get involved in chit chats, gossips, general talks, etc during the lectures, which results in not being able to connect with the teacher and the topic being taught.
My students often tell me that they seldom pay attention to the teacher during the lectures. Mostly because the topic is boring or they are distracted by their friends.
The following tips will definitely help you all to develop focus and attention during lectures –
Kill all distractions
A distracted mind is a disturbed mind. If you feel your neighbour is indulging you in talks and gossips refrain from sitting with him or her again. Ideally sit with someone whom you don’t speak with much. Your focus in the lecture will be totally on the teachings.
Pen and paper
Always keep a notebook and pen handy during lectures. Jot down each and every point the teacher says. Stay alert and keep your ears open. Ears on the teacher’s voice and eyes in the book. Follow the teacher’s voice without any distractions to the outside world. No other thoughts should be given importance. Thoughts will come. But don’t pay attention to them.
Listen to the doubts asked by others
Generally everyone makes fun of students who ask doubt. Next time pay attention to the question asked, it might open some unknown doors in your mind. Who knows the same query you might have in the days to come. Jot down the queries asked by others and also the answer given by the teacher.
Speech is silver, Silence is golden
Meditate before the lecture
A quick five minutes mindfulness meditation before the lectures begin makes the mind ready to accept and absorb the knowledge shared during the lecture.
I hope these four pointers will help the students to focus and remember the teachings in a much better way.
Mindfulness is a vast topic to talk about. For students however mindfulness plays an important role in the following parameters-
1. Self awareness
A five minute meditation before starting your studies is a good practise. Being aware of the subject you are studying and being in the present really helps. Some kids forget what they had been reading for the past 1 hour only due to the lack of mindfulness. The mind starts wandering after few minutes in other places and the awareness of the present is lost. Hence being aware of what you are reading and writing is really important.
Helping other students solve their problems or giving a hand in social activities brings positivity. Rather than making fun of weak students we should give some moral support to such students. Spreading compassion amongst friends helps in cultivating mindfulness.
It is advisable to be open with your teachers regarding your difficulties and doubts. They will always sort out your problems or at least give guidance. A teacher is not only an educator but also a life guard. A teacher is experienced in life situations wherein his or her inputs will definitely make student’s life easier. Find your favorite teacher and have a heart to heart talk regarding your problems which are bugging you for a long time.
Here were a few pointers that I have discussed about mindfulness. The next post will be about developing focus and attention during school lectures.
It so happens that one particular math problem which we had practise so much, we eventually forget it when it comes in the exam. Even I used to face such issues during exam. Forgetting answers, formulas, diagrams etc are common amongst students during exams.
Sometimes we often wonder that even though we had spend so many hours in studies, we got less marks. Often we tend to forget the answers which we have learned and by hearted during writing the exam.
Learning meditation and practising it on a regular basis will surely solve this problem of forgetfulness. What meditation does is that it improves concentration to a certain level.
“Ekagra drishti” is a concept wonderfully explained in one of the Upanishads. If the mind is one pointedly focused for a certain amount of time everyday then concentration improves and the mind remains calm and peaceful throughout the day.
Another advantage of meditation is that you will never forget those answers or formulae.
Here’s a step by step guide to meditation:
Sit in a quite place, either on the floor with legs folded or on a chair
Maintain a straight back
Shoulders relaxed and not stiff
Try to get your awareness to your breath as it flows in and out
If your mind wanders, simply bring it back to the breath
Continue this for 5 – 10 mins
Try this meditation and the results will be MIND blowing!!
The more we are nearer to nature the happier we are. The greatest example is of our grandfathers and great grandfathers who are blessed with long and healthy life. My grandmother lived for 90 years without any disease or ailments. But that is not the case now with the current generation.
We are born with beautiful sense of vision and sight. We love seeing different colours, which give us a sense of pleasure. Watching a movie, seeing a baby play, watching the sunset or even sitting beside a lake gives us so much pleasure.
Look deep into nature, then you will understand everything better.
We are entangled with our routine life and duties that we rarely find time to spend with nature. Family and work takes a toll on everyone of us that we get trapped in the web of karma.
Most of us love pets especially dogs. It is not easy to train to a dog, trust me! The same is the case with the mind. The trainer should get to know the dog first, learn his nature, behaviour, likes and dislikes. The dog should start accepting the trainer as his master. Then the bond starts developing and the dog learns to be obedient and learns the commands given by the trainer.
Our mind is exactly like the dog. It is not possible to train the mind unless we know it’s true nature. So what is our true nature?
We are born to spread love, be compassionate & be caring towards the people we interact on a daily basis. Our school teachers have taught us “Love all, Hate none”. Simple to say but easy to follow, isn’t it? We interact with so many people during the day that we forget to be polite and humble. Unknowingly we act rude, arrogant and use ill language in our interaction. That is not our true self or true nature.
If we give love, love will come to us. If we give hatred, hatred will come to us. Just like Newton’s Third law of motion, the Law of Karma works in a similar way. Next time when you encounter a situation wherein you get into an argument with someone try to remain silent, don’t reply anything. See if the situation changes and becomes better.
In today’s world it is really difficult to remain stress-free. Can we spread a little bit of happiness around us? Yes we can, by being polite and gentle towards our children, friends and everyone with whom we interact. Next time try being gentle and polite and see how happiness and calmness will come to you.
These days there is just one worry in every parent’s mind – Children getting addicted to phones. I have not met one parent who hasn’t brought this up.
The problem is not with the phone but with the users. We have taken it to the next level. Cell phones largely occupy our lives these days. Our livelihood depends on it. Unfortunately we have become slaves to technology.
I am not suggesting that we should stop using it altogether. After all there are so many conveniences that it provides. Ease of collecting data and availability of information is one of the biggest boon that phones provide.
Children should decide and dedicate few minutes to use the phone. As far as possible avoid playing online games. Instead play games which enhance memory and intelligence like Word search, Chess, Crossword, etc. Restrict the time for playing to 15 – 20 mins. Not more than that. Else it will turn into an addiction.
Exposure to screen devices is primary reason why students face problems in remembering answers. Screen devices reduce the grey matter in the matter leading to poo memory. One destroyed it is difficult to regenerate it.
Parents should monitor their child’s usage of the phone. If the mind is involved in certain hobbies or creative activities, the thought of using the phone will seldom arrive.
Being successful in our Indian education system is a challenge! So many things need to be addressed to get good percentage. Students study hard, slog day and night but very few get good marks. Sadly others become victims of failure.
Failure is a lesson learned. Success is a lesson applied.
Now how do we handle failure is a question I want to ask. Students often break down and cry their heart out to me. It saddens me for a while, however I teach them to handle the failure in a nicer way. Rather than being sad and depressed, the perspective towards failure should be changed.
Failure happens when the means are not paid attention to. The fruits of labour are more tempting than the means of doing it. If focus is given on small details of even writing an answer of History, it will bring a different change in the mind of the child. Can we not pay attention to every answer we write while studying?
Getting up and being persistence towards achieving your goal is easy to say. My advice to students is simple. Everyday while studying, pay attention to everything that you read or write. Whether it will come in the exam or not should not be on your mind. Draw every diagram with love. Solve each sum of maths with love.
Paying attention to the way of doing things will guarantee change in your results. From today onwards inculcate love towards your studies. Don’t study to get marks. Study to learn. Study for fun.
I often come across children who indulge in arguments and quarells over petty things. Winning an argument or fight gives a lot of satisfaction. I am sure everyone would agree to this.
But can we reverse this process and try to act differently in such a situation? Will the results be in our favour?
Instead of retaliating with a comeback we should try doing something different. Is it important for me to say something back? Will me replying back make the situation better?
We should ask these questions to ourself before fighting back. Most of the times it is not even important to reply. Silence is the best answer. Silence can solve so many problems of our life.
Speech is silver, silence is golden
I have encountered situations wherein I have tried to calm the person down by saying something good or apologizing upfrontly rather than arguing. Trust me the results are so much different. Firstly you will get a sense of satisfaction and content. Peacefulness will follow which otherwise would have been replaced with anger and envy.
More ever when we argue it generates a lot of heat in our mind whose aftereffects are devastating to an extent that it ruins our next few days in thinking about the same.
So next time when you face such intense situations try remaining calm and don’t reply back. Try to forgive the other person, I know it is difficult to act like this in Kalyug. But can we try doing it!
Secondly I have also experienced that once we submit or apologise even if it isn’t our mistake the ego of the other person automatically mellows down and the argument might turn into something positive or productive. Or maybe further arguments are stalled. A solution will definitely be reached or atleast a foundation for the same will be laid.
To summarise try facing a difficult situation by either remaining calm and composed or try saying something positive rather than getting angry and shouting abuses.